A parent replies: I was a 1 to my daughter. Changing now. 🌷

# The hardest reply to write @mei_asianed I have to be honest. I was a 1 to my own child. 我对孩子,一直是 1。 I thought pushing was love. And it was love — but it left her waiting for me to approve every step. 我以为推就是爱,却让她凡事等我点头。 Reading @chloe_harvard_bio just now, I saw my daughter in every line. 我在每一行里看见我女儿。 So this week I did something scary: I let her keep her own record, and I stopped checking it every night. 我让她自己记录,不再每晚查。 Day three and she is still doing the work — because now it is hers. 第三天,她还在做,因为那是她的了。 Thank you for asking the question out loud. 谢谢你把问题问出来。